Express Yourself!
20/02/10 10:42 AM
I was just reading a blog post about a man who tells about how he was served huge portions by his wife through their marriage, and gained something like 50 pounds. She had an eating disorder that he wasn't aware of (bulimia), and threw up after most meals. With her bulimia, she managed to keep her weight fairly constant ... he ballooned up over time.
For us, as outsiders, maybe it's easy to see how dysfunctional this was and we might question how or why he didn't ask for smaller portions, eat less of what she put on his plate, etc. But often in relationships we believe the other person is working in our best interest, so we let things go.
Are you in a relationship where the other person may be doing something that affects you negatively, yet you're not really able to talk to them about it? It could be food-related, or about spending money, or anything that causes you unease.
It's important to keep your 'voice' in all your relationships. If you're suppressing how you feel, or unnecessarily rationalizing or making excuses to make the other person's actions seem acceptable to you, you're doing yourself and the relationship a huge disservice.
The good news is that it's never too late to start a conversation to express your thoughts and feelings. Need help getting started?
For us, as outsiders, maybe it's easy to see how dysfunctional this was and we might question how or why he didn't ask for smaller portions, eat less of what she put on his plate, etc. But often in relationships we believe the other person is working in our best interest, so we let things go.
Are you in a relationship where the other person may be doing something that affects you negatively, yet you're not really able to talk to them about it? It could be food-related, or about spending money, or anything that causes you unease.
It's important to keep your 'voice' in all your relationships. If you're suppressing how you feel, or unnecessarily rationalizing or making excuses to make the other person's actions seem acceptable to you, you're doing yourself and the relationship a huge disservice.
The good news is that it's never too late to start a conversation to express your thoughts and feelings. Need help getting started?
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